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“He said this,” and “she said that.”   Countless couples are on the brink of divorce and millions of others have already done it.  Why?  Most often it is communication.  Of course, we all talk.  Rarely are the households I come into contact with silent.  Sometimes though, we don’t know how to talk and even more, we don’t know how to listen and really hear.

My husband and I have been together for almost 16 years.  We were youngins when we met and fell in love.  We have seen a lot of life together.  We have grown up together.  We have shared many bumps along the way.   We have shared more sweetness than bruises.  It has been a great life together thus far, and I pray for many, many, many, many, many, more years together! But we still get it wrong and as much as I don’t want to admit it, probably we will never get it absolutely right.

I share this because even though most of us, (not all with extreme cases), share more sweetness than bruises, it is the bruises we tend to focus on.

In the couples that I know that have divorced or on the brink of divorce, there is a common denominator.  Communication error.  If communication isn’t constantly being improved, then we miss the important changes that each person goes through.  From the time we are conceived until the time we die, we all keep changing.   Growth is necessary.  Change is necessary.  If nothing ever changes, nothing ever happens.  BORING!!!! 

I feel like I am going on and on again.  This is just so important.  If you are not challenged in this life, you will not grow!!!  If your relationships don’t go through struggles, your relationship will never grow stronger and better and it will be easier to give up.  If your faith in God is never questioned and you don’t take on that challenge, you will remain young in your faith and your faith will be easily broken. Challenge is good.  Growth is good.  Change is good. 

 Don’t be afraid to move forward.  Just make sure to share your thoughts, share your feelings, share your fears, share your accomplishments,  share your dreams, share the whole person you are with the person you CHOSE to walk down the aisle with and promise to love them always.  Not just when it feels good, but always. When challenge occurs, embrace it.  It means that your relationship is about to take on a new strength that you didn’t even know existed.

Before you walk away from the person you said “I do” to, have a check up.  Check your heart,  check your mind, and check your soul.  You will be so glad that you did!

“He loves me, he told me so.  I love him too.  Then I sleep with him.”  Then, he is gone.  A week later, “He loves me, he said so.  I love him too.  Then we sleep together.”  Then, he is gone.  A month later, someone else.  “Oh, wow, he loves me and I love him too.”  Then, they sleep together, then he is gone.  This cycle to find love.  To be loved. 

There are young people that desire to be pregnant.  They want a baby.  They have this romantic idea that having a baby will help to fill a void within them.

Love is a blessing.  True unconditional love is an absolute blessing.  The only UNCONDITIONAL LOVE that we will ever receive is from God.  He is the only ONE that will love us just because HE CREATED US.  No matter what we do, where we go, He Loves you. 

When we feel that longing to feel loved, we don’t need to look for that in person after person.  THEY WILL FAIL YOU.  We need to search out the Father, and embrace the love that He is so longing to share with you.  Then, joyfully, we can shout, “He Loves Me!”